From our series of model letters…because sometimes
you need to communicate with the school
about your child’s education.
Current as of October 2019
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There are times when you, as a parent, may want to communicate in writing with your child’s school about some problem or concern with your child’s education or well-being. This page presents a model letter or email you might write to request mediation as an approach to resolving a dispute with your child’s school.
When would I make a request for mediation?
Anytime you have a serious disagreement with the school and you feel it isn’t getting resolved, you may request mediation. In mediation, you and school personnel sit down with an impartial third person (called a mediator), talk openly about the areas where you disagree, and try to reach an agreement. Mediation is voluntary, so both parties must agree to meet with a mediator.
There are benefits to mediation, both for you and for the school. One of the chief benefits is that mediation allows you and the school to state your concerns and work together to reach a solution that focuses on the needs of the student and is acceptable to both of you.
For more information on mediation, visit CADRE, the Consortium for Appropriate Dispute Resolution in Special Education, at:
We also offer detailed information about mediation under IDEA, beginning at:
When writing any business letter, it is important to keep it short and to the point. First, start by asking yourself the following questions and state the answers in your letter:
Each letter you write should include the following basic information:
What are some other tips to keep in mind?
You want to make a good impression so that the person reading your letter will understand your request and say “yes.” Remember, this person may not know you, your child, or your child’s situation. Keep the tone of your letter pleasant and businesslike. Give the facts without letting anger, frustration, blame, or other negative emotions creep in. Some letter-writing tips include:
Today’s Date (include month, day, and year)
City, State, Zip Code
Daytime telephone number
Name of person to whom you’re writing
City, State, Zip Code
Dear (Person’s name),
My son/daughter, (child’s name), currently attends (name of school) and is in the (___) grade in (teacher’s name) class. I am writing to inform you that the school and I are in disagreement concerning (BRIEFLY state what the disagreement is about). We have been unsuccessful in resolving this dispute, and I am requesting mediation so that we may resolve our differences.
I would like the mediation to be done as soon as possible. Please let me know when this can be arranged and send me a copy of the school’s guidelines on mediation. My daytime telephone number is (give your phone number). Thank you for your assistance in this matter.
cc: your child’s principal
your child’s teacher
Note: The “cc:” at the bottom of the letter means you are sending a copy of your letter to the people listed after the cc.
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Discussing a problem
Requesting a copy of your child’s records
Requesting an evaluation for special education services
Requesting an independent evaluation
Requesting a meeting to review your child’s Individualized Education Program (IEP)
Requesting a change in your child’s placement
Informing the school that you intend to place your child in a private school at public expense
Requesting prior written notice
Requesting mediation to resolve a conflict
(You’re already here)
Requesting a due process hearing to resolve a conflict
Filing a complaint with the State to resolve a conflict
SOURCE ARTICLE: Center for Parent Information & Resources
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